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6/29/2012 10:51 AM GMT+0900
Your column in regard to women “having it all.” Is interesting, but in some ways it is a very skewed perspective. Let me illustrate first with a very distantly related topic. When I was in college, there was an initiative amongst feminists to “take back the night.” While it had a noble aim, it was a marvelously mistaken cause. Cats are well equipped as creatures of the night. They see well in dim light. Humans of either sex are not creatures of the night. Neither men nor women can “take back the night.” We never belonged as creatures of the night. If we were, we would not put streetlights on city streets. Creatures of the night do not need streetlights.

This whole discussion of women “having it all” has a similarly unrealistic side to it. A few women are blessed with the intelligence, the education, the connections and good fortune to have a wide range of opportunity to live “self-actualized” lives. Those who do often consider they do so through some merit. Such as these write articles about how women can or cannot have it all. Others die of cancer as children, or are orphaned at three, or some how are so meritless as to carelessly get themselves born to a crack addict, or even more worthlessly are so foolish as to not merit being born into a First World country. These are generally to busy trying to get their next meal and do not write columns pondering such weighty questions. Such as these are not concerned with having it all. They would be fortunate to just have enough to eat and a place to sleep. 
6/29/2012 5:50 AM GMT+0900
Unfortunately, one person's desire to "have it all" very often runs smack into someone else's desire to "have it different." That someone else could be a husband, wife, boss, day-care provider, child, parking-lot attendant, fellow Metro passenger, or police officer writing you a speeding ticket. Americans need to stop thinking they are alone on the planet and stop expecting everyone around us to accommodate our individual wants and supposed "needs." Life is a series of choices you make between options in order to move forward in the pursuit of your "dreams" - but your dreams don't trump anyone else's and the sooner everyone realizes that, the closer we'll all be to understanding what "having it all" actually means and the easier it will be to achieve that. One person can't achieve the highest peaks without either stepping on someone else or getting a boost - it's your decision how you want to get there, and what it might mean when you do.
6/28/2012 10:37 PM GMT+0900
Absolutely right. Women can't have it all. And neither can men. I don't know what it was like back in the "Mad Men" era (I was a very young child in the early 1960s), but as a single working dad I know that everything is compromise, and time, as Chrissie Hynde sang years ago, is the avenger. I wish there were 30 hours in a day and 8 days in a week. Alas, no.